Is it better to regret something you have done then something you haven't done?

I%26#039;m forever speaking my mind and thinking later that was a bit much but I%26#039;m glad I said it . Life%26#039;s too short to let things build up and people walk all over you so I say my piece even though I%26#039;ve lost people along the way. At least you can keep your self respect. Like telling your boss he%26#039;s a plonker and walking out, a mate who you let know he%26#039;s bang out of order etc.


(If anybody is thinking where the quote came from, both The Butthole Surfers and Orbital have used it on music tracks).
Is it better to regret something you have done then something you haven%26#039;t done?
I don%26#039;t find taking aggression out on others to be helpful and unfortunately, you won%26#039;t likely realize the full effect of your choices for years to come.





If that plonker can help you to accomplish your goals in life and long term happiness then it wasn%26#039;t a good choice.





If that plonker can help you to stay out of debt and maintain your housing and your health then it wasn%26#039;t a good choice.





If that plonker can teach you new skills so that you can move onto a better or more significant life then it wasn%26#039;t a good choice.





We are all prone to do what feels good in the moment -- like telling someone off -- rather than recognizing the long term consequences of overreacting.
Is it better to regret something you have done then something you haven%26#039;t done?
If your question is to regret what you have done or not done, it is indeed a good one. I think people regret both. Saying your mind could be good or bad as well depending on the situation and the results, but I think second guessing is common, at least I hope that it is. :)


BTW, I liked this question and I also have a song by the Butthole Surfers in my mind, %26quot;The Wooden Song.%26quot;
Reply:In most cases, I would say I would rather regret what I have done. As long as it wasn%26#039;t illegal, and I%26#039;m not regretting it from behind bars!


I am getting older, and I don%26#039;t want to regret leaving any thing that I wanted to do on the table.
Reply:There%26#039;s a difference in being outspoken and being careless.


If you know that something you%26#039;re doing is a bad idea (like walking out on your boss), you shouldn%26#039;t do it without a good reason.
Reply:I wouldn`t want to be a %26quot;Living next door to Alice%26quot; kind of guy.


I think something is to be learned for rock stars that do what they please and don`t take crap from nobody(like the Rolling Stones). But at same time don`t try to be like a rock star ,because they have a tendency to be way to self absorbed and juvenile in their behavior.


Somewhere in between there I think ,is a nice balance of being true to yourself and at same time being a grown up!
Reply:Most of my regrets come from not saying or doing something and I would rather have regrets about saying or doing something. I agree, it%26#039;s better to speak you mind and regret it than to not say anything and wish you had.
Reply:you can always better regret for something you havenot done; because you have all the time to do it , if it has to be done.





regretting for what you have done is useless.





best of luck
Reply:If you say or do things you later regret, more often than not, you can apologise or put it right.... BUT if you miss the opportunity then its too late.





So I am of the mind that its better to regret what you have done, than the not doing it. Besides, its all experience and opportunity%26#039;s to learn.





You can speak your mind, but try thinking before you speak! A ten second pause often works well to allow you to compose your thoughts....





There is a line between expression of thought, opinion and feelings AND insensitivity. Its not always WHAT you say, but HOW you say it... the words used, delivery of the message etc. You can use tact, empathy and still put your views across.
Reply:regret something i haven%26#039;t done is worse..


because, at least you get to see the results/response when you did something although it may end up something bad or negative..you learned from that experience..than not doing it and serves as a question mark for you when you grow on..